“Boundaries” in a relationship might sound like an obstacle but it is not so.
Do you really believe “Everything’s fair in love”? No it’s not.
Do you wish to but often hesitate to talk about maintaining a boundary in between you and your partner? If so, then you really need to have a clear idea about what boundaries mean in a relationship.
We have always known that love is supposed to be burden less, wide-open field resembling just a fairy tale. Yes it’s a fact that the more room there is to run unrestricted, the more the likelihood that we would trip and fall flat on our faces.
Boundaries are essential, and there’s nothing regarding the same that says it can’t be changed. We shouldn’t think of it as rigid obstructions employed to suffocate a relationship. Rather they should, can, and do change, which is why discussing about them is so very important.
Here are 12 types of boundaries you should consider setting in your relationship:
1. Overall Expectations:
Firstly, it is very important to always discuss about what you expect from your significant other and what you expect to receive in return. This should be crystal clear to both of you.
It is always said that expectations hurts- well, yes they hurt, if mishandled. Only if one thinks of expectations as standards of conduct, embracing the boundaries adjoining it, this becomes easier.
A lot of people enter relationships putting the heavy baggage of healing/completing them onto someone else. Now, talking about completion- No one is born to complete you; you yourself are complete/have the potential to be one.
Always remember- Relationship is about complimenting each other; empowering each other. So, there is a wide difference and this notion should be clear to everyone.
None of us are anyone’s god here. We’re humans and we have needs; needs which are easy to get overlook by someone else if that someone puts us on a foot.
A relationship should always be a balance of mutual give and take. So, ensure that you discuss how far you’re willing to go towards being someone’s “fulfillment” and how you would in turn like to be filled.
Every one of us are different so it is very natural that physical as well as emotional pain thresholds will vary from person to person.
Hence, always let a loved one know that there are certain things you will not tolerate as in being shouted at, lied to, silenced or mistrusted – whatever it is, make it known to him/her, that going past these boundaries will be a journey they may not want to take.
3. Sexual Expression:
All of us different preferences and specifications regarding sexual expression.
So, if you and your lover don’t exactly know where your sexual boundaries are, one or both of you might spend yours precious time faking sexual expression, which is a clear sign of concern on any relationship’s horizon.
It’s wise to let your needs and preferences be known, as well as how much space for experimentation exists within them.
When it comes to heart, money becomes poison, but can we escape the role of money in life? Never.