Is it normal to fear opening up to your partner?
Do you feel you are a puppet and a prisoner to this person?
Have they made you feel that you are the stem of any issue that arises?
If so, you may be dealing with a Narcissist.
When you hear the word narcissist, what comes to mind? For most, it’s a shrewd, vein, self absorbed, person. However, this term clinically, known as NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), is far more than a mere selfish person. This personality disorder wreaks havoc on families and relationships everywhere, over 158 million in the U.S alone. Many people are unaware of this form of abuse and even those who are aware tend to be too afraid or too beaten down to leave the relationship. However, this abuse doesn’t solely pertain to relationships, it affects families and many children are subdued to the abuse of a narcissistic parent.
What Are The Symptoms /Traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
How do you know you are dealing with a narcissist? Well, the traits of this disorder can vary depending on the severity, however, as a result of the disorder most narcissists refuse or are unable to even acknowledge these symptoms and their behavior in the slightest. Most who suffer from this disorder blame-shift onto the victim, using gaslighting and verbal abuse, thus forcing the other into submission. Most victims have been too coerced to even see the abuse that is happening, that is why it is important to educate yourself and have the ability to recognize the abuse and get help.
- Inflated sense of self (Grandiose) – Now, this is very different from the average vein person. A narcissist puts all others’ needs close to nothing, the only thing that holds importance in their lives is themselves and their facade. Most feel as if they are entitled to anything and everything, and their lack of empathy causes them to never account for another’s feelings when making decisions. Most narcissists will belittle and bully others to feed this inflated sense of self. Moreover,this impacts relationship communication and the sharing or feelings in general
- Lack of empathy – Empathy is the ability to understand and associate with the feelings of others, it also is related to the feeling of wanting to help others. Most people who suffer from NPD do not have the ability to do this, normally they become angry, confused, or cold in situations of sharing feelings. What most narcissists do is mimic the emotions of those around them allowing them to fit into social situations. As a result of their lack of empathy, a narcissist will rarely take accountability or apologize, especially if the feelings of another conflict with their own or damage their sense of self. For instance, if their partner or child were to say to them, “I’m sad” they would be quick to get angry, assuming it is solely about them, they did something to cause it which in turn evokes anger. They fail to acknowledge that something else may be causing the sadness and that the situation is not always about them.