A narcissist uses his masterful sense of language usage as a tool to control and exploit their victims.
Did you ever encounter a narcissist before or fall prey to one?
Narcissists have extraordinary linguistic skills and use words to fool, pressurize, seduce, and misguide others. They have a forked tongue that of a viper and do not compromise when it comes to ranting poisonous, malignant abuse at their prey.
They prefer verbal trickery over anything else to manipulate and are highly talented for uttering the right thing at the right time to confuse and belittle other person.
They love to devalue their victims, purposefully trying to make them feel worthless so that they may crush them to their will. This unstoppable mind game of the narcissist is so incredibly damaging to the people on the other side that it can lead to anxiety, depression and various psychological injuries.
Victims are left wounded with emotional pain that seems to be never ending. People become mentally paralyzed by the assault and do not really understand what is happening around or how to escape from it.
That’s why it is very essential to educate oneself regarding the ruthless language of narcissists; and only then will a person be able to identify it when he/she encounters the same. Knowledge of their ways will help you not only to form a shield against their attacks and but also prepare you for a quick escape.
If you have had already suffered abuse at the hands of a narcissist, a better understanding of how they manipulate might help to recover faster.
So, here’s some of the ways by which a narcissist will exploit language to control his or her target.
1. Low-level Sneakiness Abuse
This comprises of almost all continual stream of small and insignificant comments that form the foundation of a narcissist’s verbal abuse.
This is how these people usually begin to exert control over their casualty, starting early in the relationship which might just seem like nothing more than a minor flaw in their otherwise charming appearance.
Often you will find them with a friendly smile on their face, saying things like “you’re a very sensitive person by nature aren’t you?” or “no, you just misunderstood what I meant to say.” These are just the initiation of a much longer plan to wear the target down, but they are rarely seen for what they actually are because of their seeming insignificance.
This sort of hidden exploitation will continue throughout a relationship as an accompaniment to a more insidious onslaught later on.
2. The “Special Relationship” Myth
Another thing that narcissists practice particularly at the very beginning of a relationship, is to convince their victim of the unique and special bond they share with the latter. They may use phrases like- “I’ve never felt this kind of love for anyone before, you’re the one” or “what I feel for you is so much more than just love that most people talk about”
This is a form of grooming that gradually begins to sow the seeds for the target’s future tolerance of more injurious maltreatment. They are pacified into a sense that what they start believing that the bond they and their narcissist partner share is unmatched in this world.