Are You In an Obsessive Relationship? Quiz

Obsessive patterns in relationships can include constantly thinking about someone, continually checking your phone to see if he/she texted, ruminating about what this person is doing or not doing, and feeling afraid of losing the person. Bonding with a partner is a natural part of getting to know someone and of falling in love. But getting overly attached goes beyond healthy bonding and is disempowering. When you truly love someone you’re not interested in possessing the person or keeping him or her in your clutches because you’re afraid of losing the relationship. Instead, you respect your partner’s autonomy and spirit. Obsessive / possessive relationships can be very painful. Take the following quiz to determine if you have obsessive patterns.

1. Do people avoid you or glaze over during a conversation?	Yes	No
2. Are you self-obsessed?	Yes	No
3. Are you often negative?	Yes	No
4. Do you gossip or bad-mouth people?	Yes	No
5. Are you critical or controlling?	Yes	No
6. Are you a drama queen or king?	Yes	No
7. Do you corner people and tell them your life’s story?	Yes	No
8. Are you in an emotional black hole, but won’t get help?	Yes	No

How to interpret this quiz:

6-8 yeses indicate that you are extremely overly attached.
3-5 yeses indicate that you are moderately overly attached.
1-3 yeses indicate that you have a tendency to overly attach.
A score of zero indicates that you have healthy bonding with your partner.

This quiz is excerpted from The Power of Surrender by Judith Orloff MD(Learn more about how to develop healthy relationships in Chapter 6)

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Are You In an Obsessive Relationship? Quiz