Wondering who might be a strong woman?
No. Not someone who is physically well-built or someone who carries weight at the gym! We have all met. A strong woman is the one who builds mental and emotional strength and someone who emerges as the voice of change. A strong woman is always a wise woman. She is someone who deals with everything that comes their way, instead of complaining or giving excuses.
Despite what others choose to believe when they see a woman walking down the street, oozing confidence isn’t cold or bitchy. She simply is a no-nonsense person who knows her boundaries with others and set them well.
Every woman is a strong woman, because of their own struggles that they face throughout their life. Mandy Hale, an author, believes and writes,
Strong women don’t play victim, don’t make themselves look pitiful and don’t point fingers. They stand and they deal.
They are never filled with arrogance or stubbornness but is kind and resilient. If you have one in your life, be ready to embrace success and positivity.
They will never compete with the opposite gender to establish her power, position or control. She is one of a kind and hence she is not born out of the blue.
So what rules do these strong women follow?
A strong woman lives…
1. To be fearless.
Fear is one of those emotions which frequently root us to inaction. Achievement becomes impossible for a woman as long as she is hesitant to take risks or is scared to face challenges. To be a strong woman, one has to be fearless when it comes to face downfalls, disappointments, and hardships in life.
Normally any devastating incident in life can naturally bring about an overwhelming emotional response. But they cannot afford to be dumb and emotionally weak.
To be a strong woman, one also needs to be courageous enough to encourage others around them and make a difference. She is the one who inspires others, is ready to face challenges and never feels defeated. She knows that life is an uncertain journey yet she has the boldness to face anything that life throws at her path.
A strong woman knows what to tolerate and what not to while facing her fears. Fear for such a woman is a failure.
2. To be focused.
Giving up is not an option for a strong woman.
She is always focused and determined towards her goals – be it immediate or future. They goes against every odds and every storm, not caring anything in the world except to reach the destination she has planned for herself.
Well our Madonna says,
I’m tough, ambitious and I know exactly what I want. If that makes me a bitch, Okay.
Procrastination? What’s that supposed to be?
Every single woman in the world is on the top if she would have persevered through thick and thin as a strong woman does. A strong woman’s hard work and the way she disciplines herself makes all the difference.
A strong woman will sacrifice her comforts and frequently push herself out of the box to stick to her life goals. This needs they to remain strong-willed and focused no matter what comes in her way. Nothing really has the power to shake her off the ground.
3. To accept criticisms.
Escaping criticism is a sign of cowardice for a woman of such valor. Sometimes criticism is that little push that they needs, to become more powerful. A strong woman is not only aware of her potentials but also equally accepting of her vices and adversities.
She knows she has got an enemy to rejoice in her goofing off and wants her to be as unproductive as possible. This enemy is ‘criticism’ for a strong woman, who knows that the more she resists criticism, the lesser self-actualized she will be.
Thus, for a strong woman, accepting criticisms means responding to it in a positive way, rather than ignoring or letting it negatively affect them.
A strong woman is anyone who learns and grows from criticisms.
4. To be self-dependent.
A strong woman is not just a financially independent woman – she is as strong as a woman working outside in a corporate sector as is working inside as a housekeeper. For them, being self-dependent means to be happy and content with whatever choice they make for their living.
However, a strong woman is also comfortable relying on someone else to support them -be it emotionally, economically or professionally. Therefore, she independent in making her own choices, writing her own rules, being her own self and also handling the different aspects of her life on her own – all of these without being apologetic about who she is.
5. To be flexible.
A strong woman is flexible in her personal as well as professional life. She can easily adapt to unfamiliar circumstances without complaining about the discomfort that unfamiliarity brings.
Pertaining to her emotional maturity, control and rationality, she never whines when she has to go through a tough phase in life. A strong woman develops a rational attitude where she endures pain, misery, unhappiness, and all kinds of frustrations.
A strong woman never fails to effectively handle the discomforts of suffering. A strong woman takes responsibility for her own happiness along with others. They are flexible towards experimenting and exploring distinctiveness.
A strong woman’s emotional flexibility is to adapt to constantly changing circumstances. They go out of their way to lend a helping hand to others. Therefore, you will never find a strong woman grumbling!
6. To be assertive:
A strong woman has the essential people skills needed for smooth social interactions. She is aware of the significance of having the core communication tool which is being assertive.
This quality in her helps her set clear personal boundaries with others in interpersonal relationships. People often find it difficult to mess a strong woman up for this very reason.
To be passive is to let others decide for you. To be aggressive is to decide for others. To be assertive is to decide for yourself. And to trust that there is enough, that you are enough.
7. To be resilient:
Want to know the secret rule of a strong woman?
Here it is in the words of Paulo Coelho
The secret of life, though, is to fall seven times and to get up eight times.
If you know only how to fall and never get up, you need to learn this from a strong woman. Life might test her in all fronts but she will keep fighting, clinging to that undying faith that she has on herself.
She is not demotivated by failure, rather she leaves no stones unturned to learn lessons from her defeats. This is her winning attitude towards life.
Downfalls don’t make a strong woman give up, get frustrated, resented or bitter with life. On the good side, it simply gives them an extra push to cross obstacles with aplomb.
So you know now that a strong woman is positive, loving, self-assured, is neither too vulnerable nor too tough, is grounded and confident and has a backbone!
Kavita Ramdas makes a point,
We need women who are so strong they can be gentle, so educated they can be humble, so fierce they can be compassionate, so passionate they can be rational, and so disciplined they can be free.