Are you making the right life choices for your future?
I am a 30-something employee of a company and to be honest, I have a feeling of deep regret over how the choices I had made in life 10 years back have shaped up my life now. I wish I had made some changes in my priorities, in order to be on the receiving end for lasting positive results.
I reflected on where I went wrong, what I could have done differently and what changes I still can make. I sat down to write this article, which I believe will be beneficial for anyone at crossroads in life – it could be someone indecisive about what choices they need to make or someone not happy with where they are in life right now
In our daily rush of the hectic everyday schedule that leaves us with no time even for ourselves, it is highly unlikely that most of us take a pause from the usual grinding and look at a few years ahead down the line, how our life is going to shape up in the future.
True, we are working towards our cherished goals, to meet the targets we have set for ourselves. But while following the daily monotonous routine, our actions do become somewhat mechanical and ill-advised, there’s no denying it. It’s important to not let our thoughts become one-dimensional and boring too, there should be creative and social outlets through which we are able to express ourselves and develop those inherent qualities in us which have been latent for so long. This will enable us to enhance our efficiency at the workplace and become more productive as a human being and become more capable of handling our day-to-day activities and multitasking.
True, multitasking is not everyone’s strong suit, however, when you come to think of it, during a major chunk of our life, we have done multitasking in some way or the other.
Here are some of the things you should avoid doing because these life choices you make might end up to be some of your biggest mistakes:
1.Trying to fit yourself into society’s frame for success.
You might end up doing a lot of things in life to please others, but you are not happy and content yourself. If you find yourself in this situation, worry not, this is a problem Millennial and the previous generations have faced for a long time.
According to society’s fixed model for success, you might be highly successful but you are just not satisfied yourself. And yes, your satisfaction matters a lot because it determines your overall well-being.
How much money you have, how much luxury you can afford, how blessed you are with good looks- all these are society’s parameters for success which need not define you as an individual.
The best thing you can do for yourself, to make yourself happy is to focus on what you prioritize the most for yourself and work on achieving your goals within the stipulated time frame.
2. Putting up an accent on your true self only to impress others.
This is probably the worst thing you can do to yourself, there is no denying that.
You will always feel tired and lack energy because of the mere fact that you are covering yourself up, trying too hard to be someone you are not. Sometimes this change is quite evident to others as well.
With time, you might get used to it, but believe me when I say this, years down the line, you will be filled with deep regret for this mistake and will question why you even did this in the first place.
Being authentic about who you are might not fetch you the social circle or the impactful friends you desire to gain, but it sure will give you the right people who will recognize your genuineness and appreciate your honesty.
Those are your keepers. And they are sufficient for you.
3. Prioritizing work over living.
While there is nothing wrong with being a workaholic, it is important to separate the professional aspect of your life from other aspects of your life and engage in other activities and interests as well. Socializing with your friends and family is equally important as well.
At the moment, looking for ways to be successful, have fame and reputation might be alluring, but with age you will realise how important it is to have meaningful connections, deep conversations and spiritual intimacy. These are the true gems of life.
With time flying by, you get lesser and lesser chances to mend these aspects of life. Balance wisely.
4. Having a take-all attitude and not being giving at all.
Quite evidently, it feels good to be on the receiving end for anything- love, affection, wealth, etc. However, once in a while it is important to give back as well. Being the reason for someone’s smile truly makes you feel better about yourself.
Give yourself some chances to uplift someone else, bring joy to someone’s life,love your family members, make them feel special, give them time.
Remember that the happiest people are not those getting more, but those giving more. ―H. Jackson Brown Jr.
5. Keeping your feelings in shut-down mode.
Forcibly suppressing your emotions will do you no good in the long run. Your feelings are an indicative factor of how you sense the world around you and what kind of impact it has on you. Don’t shut them down, or shut people out. These will make you full of regret and remorse later.
The long-term pain suffered by suppressing emotions is far greater than the short-term pain of confronting them. ―
Suppressing feelings might temporarily seem easier and healthier but for the long run, keeping your feelings under control is extremely noxious.
6. Discarding your dreams.
Your dreams and ambitions are an integral aspect determining your choice of career and no matter how difficult it may seem, it is worth trying your level best. However un-achievable your goals might be, grind till your last drop of sweat.
People around you might discard your dreams, it is important that you do not. Whether people believe in your dreams or not, what matters is whether you yourself have a strong belief in them because you are the one who will bring them to fruition.
7. Trying to stop change of any kind from happening.
When you stop changes from happening you are sabotaging self-empowerment. If you do not evolve with time, you are limiting yourself to the old you, to your old potentials, to your old dreams, to your old habits.
Change can be scary as hell for many, and this is the sole reason many people try to stop any kind of change from happening to them in the first place. However, life itself is in a state of constant change, and you are no exception. Keep that in mind.
Rejecting changes, just because the ‘new’ is risky and unpredictable will not only stagnant your life, but also discourage you personal growth.
One must simply be watchful to not let others take over their life and most importantly, prioritize. Once you know what matters the most to you, you will automatically be able to perform actions in the manner which you exactly desire. You will automatically be on the way to have a better life for yourself, and be happy and contented.