One of the key things you need to do to further your twin flame journey is to understand (and be able to spot) a false twin flame. Getting this wrong can cause you to waste time away from your true twin flame path and cause you (both) a lot of pain and it’s not as easy as you might think.
We’ll look at the difference, how to spot a false flame and what you should do if you find yourself in a relationship with one.
Before we get too far into the details however it’s important you keep one thing in mind. A false twin flame isn’t necessarily a bad thing. A relationship can certainly cause you both pain in the short term (and you need to remove yourself from that relationship) but it’s commonly part of your true journey and something many of us will go through.
False twin flames usually arrive when they feel you need to learn something. It’ll be a subconscious drive on their part. They don’t (usually) mean anything intentionally bad or have ill intent towards you but the sooner you’re able to spot the signs – the better.
So. First thing first.
What IS a False Twin Flame?
A false flame relationship is divided into two parts. The empathic, spiritually awakened one commonly known as the twin flame victim (likely yourself if you’re reading this) and the false narcissist flame.
The arrival of a false twin flame is not luck, chance or karma. They show up when both of your energies are calling out to each other because you’re not yet ready to find your real twin flame. Or, sometimes, you have found them but you’re yet ready to take that next step. It is going to be an emotionally painful experience but both of you will be better off afterward.
If you take nothing else away from reading this: remember a false flame serves a purpose. They’re here for a reason and, while it’s going to hurt in the short term, there is a reason for all of this.
So what is it?
A false twin flame goes by a lot of different names. You might have heard counterfeit twin flame, narcissist twin or toxic twin flame (although the connection isn’t exactly toxic… we’ll get to that). A false flame is a catalyst soulmate who appears not by accident, but right before a connection with your true twin flame.
This catalyst is an important step and while not everybody on the journey will have one, the vast majority of us do seem to. Anyone on a twin flame journey is already (relatively) ascended to have reached this stage but it’s still easy to mistake a false twin flame for their true twin. This is often unavoidable but it’s a necessary part of the journey.
Our twin flame story archive is full of people who spent far too long in toxic relationships because they believed it was part of their twin flame journey. I’ve seen (more than one) example of narcissistic people using their claimed ‘twin flame connection’ to keep someone in a relationship that really wasn’t healthy for either of them.
I’ve seen false twin flames referred to as ‘the karmic attachment from hell’ and this pretty much sums it up. I’ve spoken before about the differences between twin flames and karmic partners (people you vibe with).
At first, a false twin flame can present as someone you get on extremely well with. If it’s your first time experiencing this it’s incredibly easy to mistake for twin flame soul shock and it’s very much NOT your fault. It’s incredibly common to find yourself in a relationship with a false flame.
Both people are going to feel the shock of this connection. At first, it can very much feel like the real thing. The difference is what happens after that initial meeting. Fairly quickly the false flame will begin to be an energy vampire. They’ll emotionally feed on the empath by manipulating them. The empath (or victim) will usually respond to this the only way they know – by becoming increasingly dependant on this false flame.
They tend to throw themselves further into the relationship leading to deeper pain later on. This is not something that is your fault. It’s entirely normal and a response the false flame is subconsciously counting on.
All you really want is to love and be loved. On a conscious level, you won’t understand what doesn’t feel right or why. The victim usually blames themselves and starts to feel like they’re doing something wrong.
This is why it’s so important to learn to spot the signs and get out of these relationships as quickly as possible.
It can absolutely be tough to spot. Especially from inside a relationship already. If you’re willing to tell me the details of your journey so far then I can help work with you on a custom twin flame reading. I’ve been doing this for a long, long time and avoiding false flames is always my first step while trying to further someone on their spiritual path.
Do You Have Multiple False Twin Flames?
Again this is one of those questions where the answer is it depends. It depends on how you react to the first one and what stage you were on when you met them. Some of us may have just one false flame and that’s enough of a catalyst to spur us onward. Sometimes there can be aspects of healing you require from multiple meetings.
I don’t want anyone to compare their journey to others so I don’t want to share the statistics I see. I will say you absolutely shouldn’t worry if you (or your twin) is dealing with a false twin or even multiple. It’s all part of the journey – and an important one.
Are Twin Flames Toxic? Are They ‘Bad’?
I’ll be honest, I don’t like the term false flame for exactly this reason.
Certain aspects of this connection are not… great. On some level, both you and the false flame know this isn’t right for either of you and that can manifest in many different ways. A relationship with a counterfeit flame can become unhealthy by traditional 3D standards.
Certainly, at times these relationships can be loving but while it’s no substitute for your mirror soul these connections still serve a purpose in helping you toward union. They don’t have the same unconditional love that you’ll experience with true twin flames but they are a step towards that.
The quicker we can move past them, the quicker we further our journey but it’s important we remember they are here for a purpose.
Remember that a false flame is still a person. They’re not trying to hurt anyone. They might even be on their own twin flame journey this lifetime and this is a stepping stone in their own healing process.
Are You With a False Twin Flame?
I’ve worked with hundreds of clients from around the world and there’s one thing I see constantly
No two twin flame journeys are ever exactly the same. Sure, we talk about signs and patterns which a lot of us experience but there are always variations.
The path to your twin flame union is full of pitfalls. False twin flames, doubt and painful separation phases. It can be the hardest thing we’ll ever go through – and it’s still worth it in the end.
We have a lot of guides and stories on twin flame journeys but, if you need it, I also do custom twin flame readings to get as much insight as I can into your journey.
I can help pinpoint if you’ve met your twin flame already, if you’re in a relationship with a false twin flame or what you need to do to meet them if you haven’t already.
Just answer honestly and with as much detail as possible. Anything you tell me will be in the strictest confidence.
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