One of the key things you need to do to further your twin flame journey is to understand (and be able to spot) a false twin flame. Getting this wrong can cause you to waste time away from your true twin flame path and cause you (both) a lot of pain and it’s not as easy as you might think.
We’ll look at the difference, how to spot a false flame and what you should do if you find yourself in a relationship with one.
Before we get too far into the details however it’s important you keep one thing in mind. A false twin flame isn’t necessarily a bad thing. A relationship can certainly cause you both pain in the short term (and you need to remove yourself from that relationship) but it’s commonly part of your true journey and something many of us will go through.
False twin flames usually arrive when they feel you need to learn something. It’ll be a subconscious drive on their part. They don’t (usually) mean anything intentionally bad or have ill intent towards you but the sooner you’re able to spot the signs – the better.
So. First thing first.
What IS a False Twin Flame?
A false flame relationship is divided into two parts. The empathic, spiritually awakened one commonly known as the twin flame victim (likely yourself if you’re reading this) and the false narcissist flame.
The arrival of a false twin flame is not luck, chance or karma. They show up when both of your energies are calling out to each other because you’re not yet ready to find your real twin flame. Or, sometimes, you have found them but you’re yet ready to take that next step. It is going to be an emotionally painful experience but both of you will be better off afterward.
If you take nothing else away from reading this: remember a false flame serves a purpose. They’re here for a reason and, while it’s going to hurt in the short term, there is a reason for all of this.
So what is it?
A false twin flame goes by a lot of different names. You might have heard counterfeit twin flame, narcissist twin or toxic twin flame (although the connection isn’t exactly toxic… we’ll get to that). A false flame is a catalyst soulmate who appears not by accident, but right before a connection with your true twin flame.
This catalyst is an important step and while not everybody on the journey will have one, the vast majority of us do seem to. Anyone on a twin flame journey is already (relatively) ascended to have reached this stage but it’s still easy to mistake a false twin flame for their true twin. This is often unavoidable but it’s a necessary part of the journey.
Our twin flame story archive is full of people who spent far too long in toxic relationships because they believed it was part of their twin flame journey. I’ve seen (more than one) example of narcissistic people using their claimed ‘twin flame connection’ to keep someone in a relationship that really wasn’t healthy for either of them.
I’ve seen false twin flames referred to as ‘the karmic attachment from hell’ and this pretty much sums it up. I’ve spoken before about the differences between twin flames and karmic partners (people you vibe with).