Breakups are very painful and terrible. There is nothing so shattering like this. All the good talks, romantic things, late-night chats, emotional arguments are gone now. You feel so hopeless like a deer on a headlight. The relationship ended maybe because of one of your faults, but the fact that it’s over now needs to be admitted.
Maybe you guys weren’t just made for each other. Maybe you deserve someone more appealing and good character. You might have loved the other person with deep admiration, but some facts don’t always necessarily work.
Breakups don’t mean the end of the world. It could be rather a new beginning.
I am a true believer in God and whatever happens, is for the good. I believe he has created us and wants us to follow the paths that lead to life and not to frustration, depression, or end of life.
As the saying goes, you can make it or break it.
Life is too short to waste over just a breakup. Breakups are not always bad. It might spark up something, you had been missing these years.
Most of us have experienced a breakup in our course of life. I faced it too.
I did a few things that not only helped me recover from the pain but also explore life in a better way.
Just imagine, what things could have motivated me so much that today I could write them down to motivate you too!
Well, no need to imagine. I have listed down everything for you. Hope this will be of help.
Ways to pick yourself up after a breakup:
1. Accept the fact that it’s over- self-realization:
Yes, this is the most important thing right now. You have let him go. Other than getting fastened to him and his thoughts it’s high time you move on. People tend to live in the past, which is why they fail to see reality. The truth is just in front of you. You have to see it. You might still love him but he is gone for good. Understanding the gruesome reality will give you deep insights into your present condition. Trust me living in the past has nothing to offer other than hopelessness.
After all, you can’t change things, can you?
2. Give yourself time to grieve and develop:
Grief and remorse will help you pour out your emotions that you need to lose. Self-understanding and development will open up new things. You need light in your life, which can only be brought in if you let loose your emotions that are discomforting you.
3. Discontinue further communication with your ex:
Your ex might be thinking that you would still be in touch after whatever he did. Don’t give him hope. Cut communications of any kind and let him understand that you can live without him. Cut interaction on social media platforms that you were in. Living with the family will help you heal faster. No matter what, your parents will give you the best of all suggestions. Listen to them. Share your thoughts with adults. Don’t completely isolate yourself. Self-isolation is good, but not when you are not good and need proper guidance.
4. Eat, exercise, and meditate:
There are two kinds of post-traumatic stress symptoms. Some eat more and some get into a non-eating nature. Both are harmful. Mostly the latter occurs among people. Eating less will make your body more vulnerable to germs. Eating healthy and nutritious food will boost up your immune system. Our physical body is related to spiritual and emotional parts. Hampering one component will directly affect the others
5. Exercise daily:
Exercise daily, improves blood circulation, keeps your heart healthy, and increases overall health.
Meditating every day will contribute to the emotional heal up process. It will make you live a peaceful and happy life. Make you learn things and enhance self-growth.
6. Reinvent yourself:
It’s good to slowly develop a mindful life, full of hope and aspirations. The things that you couldn’t do when you were “them”, can now do it with all force. May it be hidden thoughts or a career goal, live it to the fullest. Realize that your time to worry is over. Learn new things. Rediscover yourself and go after your passion. May it be travel, cooking, drawing, creative writing, teaching, or any job aspirations. Life is giving you an opportunity, go, grab it.
7. Hangout with friends:
Going out with friends is a great idea to keep yourself happy and sound. No one wants a frustrated life, nor do you. So do things with buddies you always wanted to, but couldn’t, maybe because of your ex’s less support or disbelief. Friends are truly the best ways to have fun and explore. If you are from LA you should find friends easily and can explore life in a far better way.
8. Go for a solo trip:
Yes, solo trip and not in groups. Try to visit the places you had visited earlier with your ex. Those places are the best to forgive and forget him. Initially, you might think about the person more, but do take a long trip, let those memories lost forever. You need a change of mind to restart everything.
9. Enjoy the significance of being single:
Being single is really fun. You can make your own choices, goals, and make plans on your own to execute them. Suddenly you will feel the taste of being independent when making life choices. You will figure out the wrong choices you had made earlier.
10. Amend the choices you made:
When in a relationship, you did mistakes of trusting someone badly, after breaking up, you will know your faults you had made earlier. Try to figure them out and amend them as far as possible.
Don’t regret over past mistakes, rather thank the person who taught you such a lesson. These things will help you grow through time. Help you understand the basic essence of life.
As I said earlier, life is too short to waste it on unimportant things.
Grow and let grow others.