7 Reasons Why People Are Mean And Rude To Others And How To Deal With It

7 Reasons Why People Are Mean And Rude To Others And How To Deal With It
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Like there are people who are kind and compassionate, there are also people who are rude mean and disrespectful of others.

The real fact is that no human is unfailingly kind, thoughtful, and respectful all the time!

It’s been always there!

There have always been and there will always be mean, rude, and disrespectful people in this world. Even Greek philosophers have complained of the problem 2000 years ago – Plato famously declaimed about the disrespectful behavior of youths.

Usually, it’s up to the measured and reasonable individuals to tolerate what we view as unacceptable behavior or to respond (better or worse) in whatever way it seems right in any circumstance.

For instance- When I’m feeling generous, I will try to imagine the person who has just rebuked unnecessarily at me, or has irritated me by trying my patience as a toddler or a child. I will wonder what stimuli they must have experienced to turn them into aggressive and unpleasant adults who seem to know nothing about good manners. 

Similarly, if I’m feeling melancholic, I’ll admit my reaction is somewhat different and less tolerant because nobody’s perfect!

Rudeness is seriously on the rise.

Displacement of anger and agitation from one person to another is a very common and relevant issue nowadays and as a result of this the cycle of rudeness marches onwards.

What are the possible causes of rudeness?

Stress and Frustration are clear factors of rudeness in modern day life, there are many causes for people becoming rude, disrespectful, and inconsiderate.

Let’s have a close look at other 7 possible reasons why most people are rude and inconsiderate of others.

1. Low Self-esteem – 

A careful inspection of many rude individuals behviour reveal that they have low self-confidence, are deeply insecure, and lack the understanding of human behavior.

“How people treat others is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves” i.e. if a person regards herself/himself in a negative light constantly, that attitude will invariably affect the way they regard others.

People with low self-esteem will often mask their own insecurities by being rude and discourteous, making an attempt to feel strong.

2. Personal Problems – 

No one in this world is stress free. Stress can be related to personal life, work and various other factors. So, no matter how well we think we’re handling stress, at times our frustrations and anger make us thrash someone verbally in situations we’d otherwise behave quite normally. It should be kept in mind that we are the ones who are being rude or mean.

Hence, when we’re stressed out it’s easy for us to act before thinking and say or do things which sound impolite and rude.

That’s a good thing to remember when you feel offended by someone else’s rude behavior. You never know what exactly is going on in others’ lives at that particular time.

3. Learned Behavior – 

Value systems of families and upbringings are never the same for any two individuals. For example- if you were brought up in a home where using harsh words in normal conversations was the norm and it was natural to throw objects around in rage, you’d perhaps view this as an acceptable behavior, won’t you?

Written by Alecia Bennett

I hold a master's degree with a clinical psychology specialization. Currently pursuing school counseling courses. I have attended various programs related to mental health issues. A person who takes a keen interest in writing anything about the human mind and behavior.

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