People in the present generation are often flakey, unpredictable, and even unaware of how to deal with other people and build strong, lasting relationships. These are the people who generally exhibit tremendous selfishness when it comes to their thoughts and behavior patterns. They may make plans to go out with you and then suddenly bail out on you out of the blue. They might reach out to you whenever they are seeking help from you or need any kind of favor from you, but otherwise, do not seem to care about you.
These are just a few of the warning signs that are indicative of the fact that you should stop spending your valuable time and energy on people who aren’t worthy of them. You have to realize that you need to stop wasting your time on someone who doesn’t care.
So there comes an upper limit on when you have to take an ultimate decision. It is in your best interest to realize that you must not let yourself waste your time and energy on people who do not value you, at all.
The following warning signs will let you know, “Don’t waste energy on someone who doesn’t deserve it from you.”
1. You go out of your way to do things for them, but they don’t reciprocate:
What can be worse than the feeling of disappointment that looms in large when you literally go out of your way to make things work for them, to hand out favors to them – simply to make them happy, and comfortable – but they are not there to reciprocate when you need them in one way or another. When you do realize this, probably as a late realization (although better late than never), you are left disappointed, wondering what went wrong to make you land in this situation in the first place.
2. They don’t listen to you:
When you say something to them, they do not pay heed to that – at all. Even if they do, they do not seem to take into consideration whatever you say to them. Clearly, they do not care about your opinion about anything at all, neither they are willing to help you when you need them the most. Your words are as irrelevant to them as insignificant you are to them.
3. They do not seem to care for you:
Whatever you think, say or do – none of it matters to them because you do not matter to them in the first place. They do not seem to care for you anyhow, because if they cared, your thoughts, your feelings and your requirements would have mattered to them. In case you needed help with something, they would have helped you out willingly.
4. They approach you whenever they need you for something:
You are like the go-to person for them, whom they seek out for any kind of help they require, any errands that they need to run, and so on. Normally what happens is, you being the kind soul that you are, give in to their demands and help these people out in whichever way you possibly can. But when you need help in some way, they will not be up for helping you – not surprising since they really don’t consider you to be a person close to them, as a friend or anything, they are just using you – either by manipulating you in some way, pretending to be a friend or a well-wisher, or simply by taking advantage of your goodwill.
5. They are not interested in being friends with you:
Their initial behavior towards you might be quite friendly, and give you the illusion that they do want to be friends with you. Over the passage of time, they might even make you feel that they are your friends – but when you ponder upon all of the interactions that you have had so far, you will realize that they are not even close to being someone you can call a “friend” – either they have been manipulating you for quite some time now, or you have been deluded into thinking that they are your friend and hold a special place in your heart and life. These people very clearly, don’t consider you to be someone close to them and are not interested even remotely, to be friends with you.
6. You make space for them in your life, but they refuse to cooperate:
You try your level best to nourish the relationship that you have with this person and develop the “friendship” that you share. You make the effort to work on things, but they are simply not interested in building a relationship with you, neither they want to find any sort of common ground with you. All they end up doing is canceling plans and avoiding you on every possible occasion that they get, giving a very vague excuse of being busy. In the end, you are the one who feels dejected and unwanted, all because of this person.
For people like these, who aren’t worthy of your time and energy, you need to make sure that you do not give out these things to them. Do not help them even if they come to crying for help, because they don’t deserve anything from you, not anymore. Learn to reserve your time and energy and protect yourself from these people. We hope this article helps you in getting the clarity that you have been looking for, for so long.