Does unconditional love exist?
There are many who question the existence of this form of love, some completely disregard it as a myth and are of the opinion that a phenomenon as unconditional love, simply does not exist.
However, quite to the contrary, it is quite possible for someone to be able to love unconditionally, without asking for anything at all in return or any appreciation for their love. All that these lovers want, all they ever seek is the complete well-being and happiness of the one they love unconditionally.
You might be dumbfounded and asking yourself, “Is this even possible?”
Unconditional love really exists in each of us. It is part of our deep inner being. It is not so much an active emotion as a state of being. It’s not ‘I love you’ for this or that reason, not ‘I love you if you love me.’ It’s love for no reason, love without an object. – Ram Dass
Let us have a clear standpoint on this topic of unconditional love, what it actually means and how do things work for a person who is capable of loving somebody unconditionally.
What does unconditional love mean?
Unconditional has its literal meaning in something that is without conditions, it can be on someone’s own terms and is generally considered to be free from the shackles of any kind of preconceived notion.
Unconditional love – in its purest form – means appreciating, admiring someone else for who they truly are. It means loving them when they are flawed, unlovable, and in spite of their imperfections and mistakes.
Like Madonna said, unconditional love is wild, brave and full of fierce passion, but with no expectations attached to it.
To be brave is to love someone unconditionally, without expecting anything in return.- Madonna
In conditional love, there may be conditions- individual flaws to be fixed or change over a certain course of time, personal demands from the object of love, unrealistic expectations from the person you love, wishing for your lover to compromise for you and many more.
Of course, unconditional love is way stronger and long-lasting compared to conditional love. It doesn’t have to depend on any ‘ifs’ and ‘buts’.
Conditional love is necessarily dependent on whether an individual is getting the suitable reciprocation he desires from the other party. The response the person receives matters a lot in this case because without this response, they would probably do away with the love or appreciation they have for the other person. Such are the dynamics of conditional love.
How would you know if it’s unconditional?
For a moment, lets believe unconditional love does exist. Even though it’s quite a fanciful thought. But who would not seek such love? Whether you are on the receiving end or on the providing end, it’s good to have the knowledge to recognize unconditional love.
Following are 7 sure-shot signs of unconditional love:
1. Unconditional love is strong and fierce.
Unconditional love does make a person somewhat invincible because nothing can come in their way of loving someone. It transcends above all factors like behavior, communication, whether the person is actually getting any response or reciprocation from the other person.
The love remains as much as it was in the beginning, and there is absolutely nothing that can be detrimental to this kind of love.
The amount of love remains as much as there was in the beginning, and it does not take much effort in a person.
2. Unconditional love flows wild and free.
Unconditional love, unlike the conditional one, is never forced.
It flows from one’s heart in its pure form without trying, and the process is a subconscious one, which makes it even easier.
Conditional love is dependent on certain factors as discussed above, and very often, the love fades away with time. It takes a conscious effort from one’s mind to have conditional love for somebody.
3. Unconditional love wishes the best for it’s beloved.
In unconditional love, one wishes only the best for the person they love. They take care of them wholeheartedly, without expecting any reciprocation from them.
It does not matter whether they receive any response in the form of appreciation or acknowledgment. All they want is, to see the person they love, succeed wherever they go – be it their work, finance or anything else they pursue in life.
4. Unconditional love isn’t about showing off.
Unconditional is less expressed among friends and family, or perhaps even to the person whom you love so deeply.
It is more sacred and felt silently within the heart. It cannot be expressed completely in words and phrases. It is deeply reflected in actions.
5. Unconditional love is indestructible.
Sometimes, being in a relationship, things just do not work out for you, and you decide to break up. Or perhaps either of you has acted in such a hurtful way that is unacceptable, and there comes the death of the relationship.
However, it is not necessary that the love between you both dies. Such is the power of unconditional love, that it cannot be destroyed or diminished. It only ever increases over time.
6. Unconditional love is non-judgmental.
Very often it is the scenario in conditional love that a person falls in love with the other person simply because of their superficial aspects like professional stability, talents, wealth or good looks.
Unconditional love recognizes the flaws of a person and ardently accepts these flaws while giving them love. It also sees the unbounded potential latent in the good qualities that one possesses.
7. Unconditional love embraces both negative and positive emotions.
It is quite normal that you feel a lot of anger, frustration towards a person while still loving them if they have done something that infuriates you in some way. It does not mean that your love for them goes away instantly.
When love is not bound by any conditions, your feelings for the other person will not be based on their emotional expressions towards you. They might lash out to you, detest you, be resented with you, but you are always patient, loving, considerate and accepting of them, completely as they are.
We can see from the above instances that unconditional love, in fact, exists. It exists between a mother-child duo, a partner duo and in friendships and marriages as well.
Unconditional love lasts long, if not for a lifetime and is most certainly stronger compared to conditional love.
There must be a stronger foundation than mere friendship or sexual attraction. Unconditional love, agape love, will not be swayed by time or circumstances.
Have you ever experienced truly and completely unconditional love? If you have, let us know how you recognized it in the comments section.
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