“To know when to go away and when to come closer is the key to any lasting relationship.”
—Doménico Cieri Estrada
Do you feel the honeymoon phase of your relationship is fading out?
Do you feel your partner’s behavior is hindering your personal space?
Do you feel that your life is being controlled by your partner?
If so, then you need to shed light on your relationship because relationships are based on mutual trust, understanding, and an inner sense of regard for one another. Care and concern for your partner are natural but learn to draw the line between exerting control over your partner to satisfy your ego and your affections towards them.
To identify subtle signs of controlling behavior you need to realize whether you are in a controlling relationship.
Signs of a Controlling Behaviour
Here are some signs that indicate you are in a controlling relationship.
- Controlling people gradually controls you by influencing your decision making powers in life.
- They build up a web of the facade over you and break down your self-confidence.
- You start doubting your basic skills which previously had your commands rather than seeking approval from your partner.
- Feelings of being trapped under your partner’s whim and control.
If these red flags are prevailing in your relationship then you need to get out of this controlling relationship before it becomes toxic.
Find out these ways to get out of a controlling relationship.
8 Ways to getting out of a controlling relationship.
1. Make them realize your worth
There is an innate tendency in a controlling person to ignore your feelings and they tend to underestimate you by discarding your suggestions as silly thereby reducing your self-esteem.
To make them realize your worth it is important for them to realize that your presence and suggestions are useful and no one else is capable of doing the way you do.
2. Do not let them grab a hold on your life.
During the initial phases of a relationship, controlling people establishes their dominion over you by providing suggestions over trivial matters. Gradually these ‘healthy’ suggestions get converted into throwing instructions on you.
To prevent it, do not accept blindly whatever advice they offer you. Instead, discuss your problems with them, wait for their opinions but decide what you think to be correct for you.
By doing this they would get a hint that you are not a person who would abide by their words in every situation.
3. Learn to set up healthy boundaries.
Boundaries are an integral part of a relationship. You need to create proper boundaries between yourself and your partner.
If you are dealing with a controlling partner then setting up healthy boundaries can inflict less damage to your life and relationship.
Be assertive in your opinions and do not allow your partner to break the shield of your deep personal zone.
By doing this from the very beginning, your controlling partner will treat you as a strong person and will not mistake you as a fragile soul.
4. Keep a circle of friends in life
Friends are our ‘constants’ in life. They are ceaseless companions throughout our life journey. Having a proper group of friends adds colors to our everyday monotonous life.