Things might have ended very badly, but the fact that it’s over now must be accepted.
You and your ex-partner might have shared good memories and great experiences, but still didn’t care before leaving you, has shattered you down into pieces.
It’s becoming hard day-by-day to do work being consumed by someone’s thoughts.
Life becomes a burden and you find peace only when you sleep.
Things suddenly changed between you, and now you are almost strangers to each other.
You still can’t get over him? His thoughts are making you go insane?
Then you must be suffering from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder.
Crazy right? But it’s true.
Reasons, why you must be thinking about your ex, could be because-
1. You liked the way he made you feel:
You used to be that perfect couple in your society. Young people envied you the way you used to be. You felt much more happy, confident, and beautiful when with them.
His affection made you feel special and honored. You never felt such a rush of emotions before. They made you feel that you were perfect.
2. You miss their company:
They were your best friends. Whenever you wanted to have a change of mood or go for a hangout, they were always there. You had their back. Now that they aren’t there for you is making you go mad. You can’t take it anymore.
3. You crave being in love:
The love you received from him made you strong and also taught you self-love. You found peace of mind in his compassion.
Your partner left you heartbroken, without even caring?
Who does that? How could he do this to you?
Like really? Stop being blind now.
He already did what he had wanted to!
4. You regret things:
You blame yourself for your lack of ways.
You think that you mustn’t have done some things that hampered your relationship. Now you realize your mistakes and want to atone for whatever happened.
It’s human nature when we can’t resolve anything, we blame it on ourselves.
We find refuge in accusing ourselves
What? He left you and you are the one who’s mourning? Unbelievable!
5. You feel guilty:
Even though you had nothing to do, you feel miserable and guilty. You might have trusted him so much that you almost forgot to see the truth. Finally, when you got to see the facts, It was too late.
7 Ways how to stop thinking about your ex
1. Acceptance of the fact that it’s over:
You can’t change your present condition but can change the future. You have to let your emotions flow. Giving yourself Ipretenses isn’t gonna help anyway. It is making everything worse.
Things that have happened cannot be undone by you, so why are you worrying?
I too faced certain problems after the breakup, but I coped up well with the situation. Life is unpredictable, so you have to be prepared for the worst.
Stop thinking about them.
2. Cut contact:
You shouldn’t start being friends with your ex. It will only boost past feelings that will lead you to more sadness.
It’s advisable to cut all sorts of contact with him. Let him know that you can survive without him. Let him know you have let loose all emotions. The hardship one faces after breakups upset people and make them anxious.
No need to be on social media even. There is negativity in social media that can harass your feelings. So try to stay away from them, till you recover.
3. Take family’s help:
Home is the place of worship. You will find peace of mind only at home. Here resides your family (well, for most people), with whom you can share everything that you might be experiencing. Share your thoughts with them, as they might give you any solution. Family therapies can be considered, they really heal up fast.
4. Try meeting new people:
Try going for a walk in the evening or in the morning when it’s quiet outside. Meet new people but don’t get victimized again
Listen to their problems and compare them with yours. Sometimes we feel less bad to know that someone else’s problem is bigger than ours. It has nothing to do with being mean or selfish. This is hardcore human psychology.
Express your thoughts, get a suggestion on how to cope up with things.
When real people who had faced the same problem give us advice, it looks much more convincing to us.
5. Explore things/ reinvent yourself:
Try changing your mind. Go for new things you weren’t able to do before. May it be travel, cooking, drawing, creative writing, teaching, or any other aspirations.. Have adventurous trips with friends. Try bungee jumping, rides, and enjoy the most awesome experiences you had been missing thinking about your ex.
6. Come up with new goals:
Make a career plan. Opt for things you wanted to go for. It could be pursuing higher studies or research ideas. Think about grooming yourself. Take a music course and start being a YouTuber. Gain followers and bang!
7. Find motivation:
Keep yourself motivated and move forward. Never look back or regret. Mingle with positive souls and avoid negative ones. Be true to yourself, and always follow your instinct. They never lie.
Try not to trust anybody blindly. Your ex is your unfortunate past, but your future is right ahead of you. Stop wasting time thinking about them.
It’s you who needs a brand-new start.
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What to do After a Breakup? 4 Ways To Be Happily Single
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