“ I would rather walk with a friend in the dark, than alone in the light”
-Hellen Kellar
Like most of us, I too had to sail apart from one or more friends in my life.
It was too late when I actualized that we were so very apart from each other.
Life is so unpredictable, isn’t it?
But still, we move one. Life has to be this way.
Reaching out to a friend with whom you haven’t spoken for a long time can be hard.
Do not rush, take baby steps.
You might have been quite close, but still, you never know how people might have changed through the years. So take the time.
Reasons, why you drifted, maybe concrete and you couldn’t do anything to save your friendship at that time, but as time has changed now, you have thought of.
Start by connecting on social media. Like and comment on their posts.
This would convey the message to your friend that you still believe in them or might be wanting to start the friendship once again.
Watch out, if the friend responds to your messages or text you rather.
Do not bring out previous facts right then. Try to talk to him about different aspects.
Do not get emotionally drifted, as that may too affect your business.
We have come up with the baby steps you can take, to reach out to your old friend.
7 Ways to reconnect with an old friend.
Ask your friend for a coffee meet. Then follow the below steps!
1. Be gentle and well mannered in your first meet:
Do not be angry or too expressive of the things you felt for them when you two parted ways.
Try coming up with formal gestures and check whether your friend is just comfortable in being formal with you, or are wanting to show friendly gestures too.
Do not rush. Keep it slow but not boring.
Ask your friend if they have been to that coffee shop before, or is it his first time.
What kind of coffee do they prefer now and what more eatables could be tried?
In each of the moves, take notice of what your friend might be wanting to ask.
2. Just let it be:
It’s okay if your friend isn’t helping. You have other people in your life to worry about, who cares about you.
You can’t make things happen. Can you?
We don’t have anything to do with people’s feelings or beliefs.
If they don’t want to connect with us, then pressurize it neither on them nor on you.
You drifted from this particular friend due to some reason, don’t forget that.
3. Try to understand things:
If it’s still unclear to you, why they haven’t replied to you back or are making lame excuses to not catch up with you, try to understand the facts.
You need a clearance of the things.
Think, you might have offended them in some way or things ended up very ugly between you.
Try to think of their good qualities that made you both friends back in the past.
So, there you have it. Some guidance on how to reconnect with a friend you’ve not seen for a long time. It might be messy or upsetting, but it also might be the best decision you make.
4. Crack jokes:
The best thing about long-term friends is that they know your witty nature and takes them that way. Your cracks will be fairly received by them. Try making them laugh at old memories and things that are tough to forget.
Laughing is a great way to get rid of emotional obstacles. If both of you can laugh loudly at the same things, it might clear out many tensions.
Make sure your friend doesn’t get irritated by your jokes.
Try not to laugh at them or mock them.
They might not take those things as they used to. So be careful when you laugh.
5. Talk about serious issues:
We all have so many troubles. Both you and your friend might be facing some problems. Sometimes discussing them allows people to know more about each other. Try discussing your issues with your friend.
We pretend so many things, then why can’t do it this time? You might know it’s the solution, but you should come up with it, for opening up to your friend.
6. Make plans:
Let your friend make plans or you may do it too. Plan on trips and holidays that you can have along with your other pals.
Go for movies that you both might enjoy and open up things between you.
Ask your friend if they really relished the moments.
Exchange numbers and mutual thoughts.
Ask your friend when could you meet next.
Consider hugging your buddy at the end of the day, to give it a good conclusion.
Things sometimes go very bad between friends and even best friends. But if we have the will to connect with them once again, then we should not give it a second thought.
Do not hold a grudge against any friend when they change.
Accept them as they are now.
Not all friends can be the same. Understand the thin lines.
In our life, we come across many kinds of acquaintances, casual friendships, and close friendships.
We should invest more time in nurturing those who value us, our choices, and accept us the way we are.
Make sure you have such people in your life to live for.
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