What is a One-sided Friendship? As the saying goes, friendship is a two-way street. To make it perfect and sustaining, efforts have to be made from both sides. Equal quantities of work should be made by both.
But there are times, you might feel that it’s only you, who is putting all the effort and is over-hyped. That is what One-sided friendship feels like.
Most of us have experienced such partial friendships in our childhood and are experiencing them at present too.
One-sided friendships are actually fake. It makes you feel so much intricate and uneasy that you can’t talk about it with anyone.
It might be someone new, whom your friend is mostly interested in and consequently losing in you. Whatever it is, should be handled, to not let the other person take you for granted.
We are here to help. Here is a list of signs by which you can identify, who is that one-sided friend of you.
Signs of One-sided Friendship
1. You are one to text first:
Have you ever seen them initiating a conversation first? Is it always you, who sparks up talks?
Well, yes this is a bit circumstantial and judgemental to say that they are one-sided friends, maybe they are upset or afraid to ask first. That’s okay for a few times.
But watch it, if this happens most of the time.
2. They only call you when they need a favor:
One of the very obvious things to spot in a one-sided friendship is to check if your friend calls or texts in times when they need something from you.
Does your friend come to your place just to have some free beer? Or to watch shows on OTT platforms that they haven’t subscribed to? Do they come to play games with you all the time?
Harshly speaking, but your friend might be using you for their needs. You need to pay attention to these. The toxic friendships are marked by a lack of interest and only calling when they are in want of something.
3. They never listen to you:
A few fellowships consist of one chatty companion and one hovering audience. On the off chance that you’re cool with that game plan, at that point continue doing your thing. Be that as it may, if you disapprove of it, at that point you might be leaving your get-togethers feeling like nothing you said was heard.
4. It’s you who make the effort:
You make plans for both, you make compromises and negotiate with your hopes most of the time.
Everyone has their own life, but what matters is, if they can take some time free for you. It’s true that we can’t always go expecting from others. But sometimes, we too desire. It isn’t a sin to desire something and we all do that.
You need to take notice of this.
5. You’ll never hear thank you:
Whatever you might do, how big might it cost to you, your unreal friend will never say a “Thank You”. As if it was nothing for them. They’ll take favors, but in return would never help you or say thank you. Even, they don’t apologize for their mistakes. This is high time, that you start filtering such people from your life.
6. They don’t care much:
They use you to the extent possible and leaves you in pain. They mean literally every word you say. It’s hard for them to realize the impact of their actions. They don’t care about your feelings and the things you do for them. It’s time that you find someone more trustworthy than them.
7. They are unreliable:
One of the most significant parts of fellowship is trust and dependence. We as a whole need a companion who does what they state they’ll do and stays by you. They have your back in shady circumstances and they’ll guard you till their perishing breath. However, this is an extraordinary character to search for in a companion!
On the off chance that your companionship feels like it’s deficient with regards to this present, it’s an ideal opportunity to address why. Perhaps they don’t bolster you when another person rebukes you or causes you to feel awful.
“There’s nothing to regret. Every mistake we do teaches us something worthy”
How to deal with One-Sided Friendship?
If you are feeling uncanny, it’s advised to talk it out. Having conversations is the key to solve the trouble.
1. End the relationship if your friend doesn’t change:
If even after your long days of hard trying and discussing the problems with your friend, don’t change them, then it’s good to settle such a fake friendship. You might have done a mistake in understanding them and that took you so long to correct your mistakes.
2. Give yourself time to process emotions:
You have spent much valuable time of yours in giving your friend, chances. Opportunities, that they were unworthy of. It’s okay that you failed. Take time to process things and clear out bad memories, as the good ones are on the line.
Do not pressurize yourself for things, that aren’t meant for you.
It might a friendship, relationship, or other relations.
You should understand that it’s you, who matters. You should see if you are happy with someone, or just pretending to be.
3. Be particular before initiating new friendships:
Don’t get into the making friends’ craze just after ending one. It takes time to process things.
You’re hurrying up the whole process will only make things worse for you.
The coming out of any relationship, makes us go through different phases, where we think it’s worth putting up with the bad ties because they are so great and are worthy to consider.
It’s time for self-love and self-care.
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