“Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake and help us see we are worth so much more than we’re settling for.”
― Mandy Hale
Most of us come across toxic relationships in our life. We see how these people deplete us in the best way possible, leaving us in a black hole, which tears us apart.
Friedrich Schiller University in Germany researched and found that exposure to stimuli that cause strong negative emotions-the same kind of exposure you get while dealing with toxic people. Such stress can have a lasting and negative impact on the brain.
Toxic relationships arise from a person’s selfish motives to accomplish something from someone or something. In doing so, they do things that not only affect the other person but their relation too.
They take the other half for granted and neglect it like a piece of garbage. They would take out your existence from you and leave you with nothing but helplessness.
So. it’s always better to find an exit from such a disastrous association.
“When there’s a will, there’s a way”
We have considered some ways that will be helpful for you to find an exit:
Stop victimizing yourself:
Don’t hurt yourself just because of the reason you were attracted to the person in the first place. Yes, you made the mistake of blindly trusting them; but now that you know their true self, you must not let your life decay any further.
You can’t change anyone who isn’t willing to:
The person with whom you have been spending so much time has given you nothing but a life full of mistrust and disgust. Someone who hasn’t shown any signs of regret till date, won’t surprise you anyway. The person is simply not willing to change. Give yourself a chance for a better future and stop trying to fix things.
Fear and love are different things:
Are you staying with the person for love or with fear? Ask yourself. If the answer is fear, then you should run. As far away as you can from the relationship that is killing you from inside. Maybe living this way has been a habit for quite a long time, but this isn’t the way they should have treated you? Right?
Focus on what you could be:
Rather than focus on what you couldn’t be, focus on what you could be. Living a constant life with such morons reduces your brain capacity and eats away your life motives. You might have dreams and goals or some promises to keep. Go, fulfill them. Why are you even stuck here?
Forgive yourself for wrong choices:
It’s okay to fail sometimes. A runner never stops running just because he failed at one match. Instead, he works hard until he reaches his goal. Mistakes made unknowingly are worth forgiving. Think about the best choices you make now. Think about how life could be meaningful and easy.
Let go of the partner who doesn’t acknowledge your worth:
People with toxicity in them would never allow you to leave them. They have molded you into the doll they always wanted you to be. It will be hard to let go. We hold on to things hoping that things might come back around, but you have to understand that life doesn’t work that way.
Surround yourself with positivity: Positivity can bring hope and significance to your life. A positive person is always happy and looks forward to making life meaningful. You deserve nothing less than the best.
Your brain is still figuring out how to trust anyone again- isn’t it?
Living with someone who oscillated between the best and worst person you ever met, does a number on your sense of trust, and can make you feel like your own instincts and gut feelings are way off. That can take a while to get past. Even after you separate, it takes a while to rebuild yourself and reconnect with everything you used to love, so you have to be patient with yourself.
Though it sounds cheesy, you are going to survive this.
Things you can do for yourself after you move on from a toxic relationship:
- Talk about your feelings
- Make friends, as being social is the key to reinvent yourself.
- Take professional help if you feel so.
- Self-care is very important. Practice it daily.
- Do Not regret things you have decided for yourself. Self-doubting is a big no-no.
“Healthy relationships nourish and support us. A toxic relationship, on the other hand, is like poison to us-
Instead of lifting us, it makes us feel worse,”
– Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT
In the beginning, it may seem a bit strange and uneasy, but you will get through this. Whenever you feel lost just remind yourself that good days are in front of you, all you need to do is embrace it with an open heart.
You have every right to finally be happy, so never hesitate to do things that will make you feel wonderful all over again.
We all are meant to be happy for the whole life but some like you had to just learn a life lesson in a rather difficult way.
There is always sunshine after rain, light after darkness, and a chance after mistakes.
So here’s to new beginnings.
Read more : 11 Signs of a Toxic Relationship